By Jason
    May 5th, 2008 at 11:51 pm

I'd like to welcome everyone to another round of Ask The Dude!. If you don't remember from our last go-round, this is how it works: Go ahead and ask anything that's been on your mind, and either myself, or one of our writers of your choice (Murph, Tacos, or FMP) will go on and answer your question. This is your chance to find out anything you've always wanted to know, right from a dude's mouth. (Well, fingertips.) Just leave a question in the comment area, and check back for your answer. Take this question from an actual reader for example:

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    By Jason
    April 3rd, 2008 at 8:02 am

 I'd like to welcome everyone to another round of Ask The Dude!.  If you don't remember from our last go-round (and really, why should you? It's only been a year and a half!), this is how it works: Go ahead and ask anything that's been on your mind, and either myself, or one of our writers of your choice (Murph, Tacos, or Mystique) will go on and answer your question. This is your chance to find out anything you've always wanted to know, right from a dude's mouth. (Well, fingertips.) Just leave a question in the comment area, and check back for your answer. Take this question from an actual reader for example:

 Dear Dudes,

I know my boyfriend looks up porn on the internet and I tell myself I don’t mind. But he seems to only look up asian girls which I am definitely not, and this really bothers me. I know I shouldn’t be worried but it makes me feel like I’m not what he wants. How do I get over my hangups?  - Marissa

Dear Marissa,

I assume he still comes back to you in the end? I'm not so sure you have anything to worry about.  So the guy has an Asian fetish?  Think of it sort of like the guy at work that has pictures of porsches on a calendar behind his desk.  They're all shiny and new, slick-looking, and dangerously sexy.  Yet, every night he turns off his computer, heads down the elevator, and clicks the alarm on his 2004 Ford Explorer.  The Explorer is a steady, reliable, fun truck to drive (ok..maybe its not uber-reliable, but it's really the metaphor that I'm worried about), and for the most part, makes him happy.  He knows the porsche isn't for him.  It's either out of his price range, not practical, something that'd be fun to have in his head, but wouldn't work in reality, etc…  The bottom line is that the porsche is just a fantasy.  Something that's fun to experience in his head, but there's nothing more to do with it.  See, the Asian women are your boyfriend's porsche.  Sure he likes to "think" about it now and then, but, in the end, it's just that… a fantasy.  I say go with it. Go get yourself an Asian schoolgirl outfit, put your hair in pig tails and call yourself Ming.  He'll love it and it'll pay dividends.  (Of course, there's always the possibility that he genuinely prefers Asian women.  On second thought, I gotta tell you Marissa; it doesn't look good.) 

Love, 
The Dude.

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    By Jason
    July 5th, 2006 at 11:01 am

As a new feature to this site, every once in a while, The Dude's Life will run an "Ask The Dude" column. This is how it works: Go ahead and ask anything that's been on your mind, and either myself, or one of our writers of your choice (Murph, Eddie, or Mike) will go on and answer your question. This is your chance to find out anything you've always wanted to know, right from a dude's mouth. (Well, fingertips.) Just leave a question in the comment area, and check back for your answer. Take this question for example:

Dear The Dude, I've noticed a ton of bickering on your site between yourself and other people over this "man-card" thing. What's what all about? Thanks, Confused.

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